Bi Is The New Black – TS16

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BBB – Butts, Boobs & Boats event in Austin

Naughty in N'awlins

The Monogamish Marriage Blog

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Oasis Aqualounge in Toronto

Cougars and Cubs event at Oasis

The Everything Sexy Show

The 2nd Cuming Show

Interesting Quotes:

• Bi is becoming more accepted and more talked about for both genders
• More talked about with the gentlemen of the lifestyle which is definitely a change for the better
• It's a Simultaneous Release
• Angie and Jay have gotten me into a whole lot of trouble — Thank you Angie and Jay
• Me being the slut that I am, slept with all of them
• I was not a believer, I just thought all bi guys were gay guys — I now know better
• We wanted to talk about the whole bi thing
• We can talk about it from the female perspective, couple perspective, male perspective
• Can you paint me a picture
• I'm much more passive when by myself
• I prefer to fuck a couple, preferably a bi couple
• Single Ladies — Concerned this is going to turn into a dating thing
• Tricksters — from the Everything Sexy Show
• Solo Guys from the lifestyle — repressed — think this is going to turn into a regular thing — they are not open — when they find a guy, they latch on
• You dont' tend to repeat
• They have their regular little fuck tribe
• I'm an exibisionist
• We don't play separately – we are attached at the hip
• You're the trouble maker
• Because we have so much fun together, when we add somebody, it has to add to this
• You're just being kind and gentle, you're the benevolent one, Soul
• Penetration works for her, doesn't work the same way for me
• There are toys and options, but the real thing is just better
• She was not a penetration fan either — no more than 10 minutes
• Compersion is a big thing for you
• When I come near her, I can feel it coming off of her
• How do you pick guys,, what are your criteria?
• I call her picky, she preferes particular, discerning
• Tall, muscular, army dude kinda people, obviously build, got to be taller than me, well endowed
• A gentlement hat has that masculine energy that shows, who is not so gentle
• She is viewing, so if it turns me on, it works for her
• She has excellent taste
• Shannon and I have different taste
• Normally she picks
• This last time I picked, I pick good!
• They were from Chile
• I am a flirter, but not the agressive in your face, eye contact, be in your space, brush against occasionally
• They were watching, I did my little wink
• It was magic, it was awesome
• She likes my taste.  I just don't always like her taste.
• I cannot figure out this freaking recipe
• It's either a hell yes or a hell no
• I watch her, and she's just in heaven — This is the best!
• Helping me celebrate her birthday
• The focus was on her 
• Which you didn't warn me about by the way
• It's your birthday, what do you want?
• I was kinda speechless, then I said 4 hands massage
• It was good, but the part that was you and him, was even better
• Everything is all inside when the focus is on you
• When I am receiving pleasure, I have to focus inside
• I'm either good at being done, or watching, or doing
• That's part of what voyerism is – all the pressure is off
• I like to be involved, still hands on
• I love seeing other people happy, what gets them off
• You are letting go, you don't scream like that in real life
• It's good for a while, but then I want to be in there
• I was very sexually active since 13 – I've done a lot
• Whenever she's experiencing something that's a first – I'm seeing it through first time eyes
• There's not much we could put on a list that I haven't done, but I haven't done it with her
• You're the freak in training
• I dated this girl, she said she'd done all this stuff
• Most of the times, I'm not into communicating to the guys, they can be rude
• DVP – So now he's asking about videos
• Your block and my block have some different things on it
• DP – It's hard work. On porn it looks easy, but it's not easy
• Trying to get in the same hole
• It's not like your dick is saying, let me get smaller so you can get in there
• Especially when you're bi and it is growing
• I like to think I have a better than decent size penis
• I don't understand what the problem is, they squeeze babies out of there
• It's not like they are pushing babies out all day
• I'm trying to not think about what is about to happen
• If my dick gets harder, it gets harder
• In reverse cowgirl, I lay back
• I love noise
• Oh my god, it's so good
• Is this fluid bonded, or 2 condomns?
• I've not had a condom bust from double vaginal penetration
• One of the guys decides to be more passive
• I don't have to do shit, I'm just laying there and they are working their assess off
• I've done the other position
• How many times have you done this? 8, 9, 10 times
• Went to a party
• The guy is bi and into me
• He was nervious and couldn't get it up, so I just fucked the shit out of his wife
• I get on the floor with this other chick who I didn't really know
• Whatever, this will be fun
• The other guy, I think it's time for a double penetration
• It just sort of happened spontaneously
• Since our balls have touched, I figured I should introduce myself to you
• More than our balls touched to be honest with you, but nice to meet you
• On sexy Twitter — hands around two penises, rubbing on each other
• Three penises together
• Soul can't even speak – this is her fantasy
• Bi guys that are interested in you too – that's not hard, I can set that up
• Guy orgy with just watching
• What if a bunch of guys and engulfed with a sea of men
• Ladies Choice at M4 is an ethical gang bang
• DTF at Oasis is the First Tuesday of every month
• Naughty has the Plus One room
• Taylor has store called Organic Lovin
• Guys were bringing their women down by the droves
• The couples that don't play with single guys are more vocal
• Our experience is that the women are often way more inappropriate
• Women who are sloppy drunk, over aggressive dick grabbing
• The number of women who will just grab you by the dick is out of control
• As a guy you feel like a loser complaining about a woman grabbing your dick
• Goddammit that was my dick
• We get that with women grabbing breasts, tongue down my throat, sticking fingers in
• Are you more or less likely to be okay based on looks
• If you are hot, I'm more likely to let that go
• If it's someone that you are attracted or interested in, you are probably giving off clues
• You have no respect now,  you think it's going to get better
• Guy came over and pinched my nipple seductively, and he was good looking, but that action just turned me off
• What I'm trying to own is male privilege
• Use this line in vanilla world and it shuts things down — hey, she's my wife
• Do you ever get this fantasy
• Once they realize we are a couple, they figure they are out of bounds
• Now that I think about it, you are the first female couple that are into guys in the lifestyle
• It didn't even faze you when you found out
• It's the single guy who's fascinated that we are connected that works
• Oh my god, this is my fantasy, then nothing works
• Most of guys when it doesn't work, they shut down
• Adderall itself is an erection suppressant, like cocaine
• I just shifted to my other skills
• The more you are in your head, the more it's not going to work
• It can happen for many reasons, too tired, alcohol
• Guy comes in, two women, all in head, my fantasy
• Let's give it a good ole try
• It's a lot of work to satisfy two women at the same time, with different desires
• Have to have that all work as long as I can go, which is a long time
• As soon as you stop thinking about it, it all comes together
• What's the best thing about being bi?
• We attract what we are – you didn't get this close without something there
• I ended up at this gender fluid play party
• Can I rub your head?
• Knowing that there are a lot of options – sliding between different worlds
• I'm never feeling bored or lonely, I always have a lot of options
• Nothing more attractive than something that's already taken
• Folks noticing that you are happy
• You have this pass
• I feel that I have fewer limits than if I were gay or straight
• Do you have an equal attraction to men and women?
• If you go to a nude beach, who are you going to notice?
• With guys my interests are different
• Ability to be more rough, I like showing off my dick, the more dicks the merrier
• But I don't like penetration
• What do you do?
• Masturbate, porn
• Do you kiss?
• I might not start making out, but might end out making out
• Rough in the face like me, it's going to hurt, but when horny, it's fuck it
• Anal sex is not my thing — smells, risk of accidents
• That's why I like girls – spontaneous – if fluid bonded
• Too much fucking work
• I'm attracted to both, but if it comes down to penetration, it's going to be a girl
• If it's clean and I'm into you, and that's what you really want, I'll do it
• If we got out of a play situation with a guy and got out without anal sex, it's like YES!
• You sound sexual
• Learning to be more sensual and energetic
• Just laid there in a room where there's a lot of group sex happening –
• I could feel other people's orgasms
• Two guys slip sliding on each other would be hot, or is it just penetration?
• Keep Austin weird
• Conscious play parties
• A lot of group massages, everybody got a turn on the table
• We went and sat on the bed, did they get their desires met
• Lay in a group cuddle and talked for an hour
• Nothing better than home puss
• Why settle when I already have something that I like
• What is the biggest challenge about being bi?
• Most have seen enough of me having sex with women, to know that I'm not just after the guys
• Bi in the lifestyle tends to mean you are seeking the same sex
• The problem is the homophobia
• Folks think that every time you play with this couple the guy is into the guy
• Their conduit to getting same-sex action is through the lifestyle
• I'm not the guy who will be your regular
• Often this debate about how the women really takes care of herself and puts in the extra effort
• I'm nodding my head a furious yes
• Go tell your man to dress up
• You should match the level of sophistication or lack thereof
• You're gonna let the guy just roll out of bed
• I wonder if this stems from the high percentage of couples that are in the lifestyle for the woman to be with woman
• He's not a part of the attraction quotient
• There are a lot of beauty challenged
  10 and 2 steering wheel couples
• With a little bit of care and attention, you can up anything
• Shave it off, whiten it, darken it, tuck it in
• Go to the gym a few times, get the blood flowing, haircut that suits you
• Change of wardrobe for a lot of guys 
• The ones that do try, get my attention
• Since you're an expert now, what would you share, words of wisdom, what would you want to have known?
• The two minorities in the lifestyle are bi-guys and straight women
• We relate to the straight women as we are seeking the nice guys
• The other underdog in the lifestyle that people don't tend to address
• It is a real thing – you can be attracted to both sexes
• If you are feeling that way – the minute you start opening yourself up, more possibilities happen
• People popped up and said “me too” – people already in my circle
• The fear that the loss is far greater than the gain
• Take a step and find people that say yeah
• If there are people that are criticizing you, why would you want them around you anyway
• The other folks that are “I loved you then but don't love you now” – Get the fuck out
• Some people that were totally fine with it
• Now, I don't care what they think
• A lot of guys think that there aren't women that will get it — there are
• Bi is in
• Bi is the New Black — high five with that
• Not just about the sex, but the desire to use it to uplift your life
• We like to try new things
• Lots of travel – eventually we will probably travel more than we will be home
• Becoming part of the podcasting community has expanded to know
  other events
• If I could build a life around travelling, meeting people, having sex with them if I want to, that's heaven
• It's a real thing – being bi
• I'm pleased to be your first, I hope it won't be the last, and I hope this won't be your only